Today, the future Mrs. and I went Registry shopping. All the joy of shopping and no money needed. She and I are not big shoppers and the five hours it took for us was obviously draining, but we did manage to hit up two stores and other than a couple of pieces and some registry synthesizing (comparing the two lists and editing out duplicates) we are pretty much done.
We both went into it expecting to have some conflict. We share different tastes in things, most notably the length of my pants, and we expected it to carry over into Registry shopping. Luckily it didn't. (Incidentally, the pants length thing - apparently I wear high-waters...she said it and it has been confirmed by many a people. My mother's influence in my youth really hurt me on this one. I have changed my pant length ways, stepping on the back of them and fraying the bottoms - which I like - within the first 24 hours of wear. Any short pants are residuals of the old pairs waiting to be weeded out as I buy new ones).
I can still confirm that I get tired of shopping after a relatively short amount of time. I am dumb-struck by the house necessities (It was so much easier when Mommy and Daddy bought them all), and I feel quite the consumer today. She and I have set it as important for us to value "Welcoming" into our home and do feel that our home needs to accommodate as is affordable. I am very happy with our selection - it will be just weird to be a proud owner of such items as a stationary mixer, a duvet (didn't even know what that was until about a week ago), and other such items that I never needed as a bachelor.
So what did all this teach me:
1. My wife-to-be and I are going to do pretty well in the decision making department. Maybe we'll have some disagreements, but we make a good team.
2. I want to be careful in life not to get too domesticated. Registering for incidental, non-necessary items was fun, but too many is not good for a life of simplicity. I am very encouraged that the future Mrs. is simple conscious so I don't go off and get the stupid incidentals - like video games.
3. I still don't like shopping for more than an hour.
4. This wedding thing is real and I'm getting more excited to not just be a groom, but to be a husband.
5. We are moving right along on this planning thing, and it will turn out to be a really great time.
6. Probably plenty of unthought-out things.
Registry - fun, tiring, consuming, growing up and did I mention - fun (at least because my fiance is incredible and makes it fun).
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