As I am now in the realm of truly thinking about this, a good dose of humble pie and true encouragement comes from a friend who is about 6 months ahead of me in this process. She and her husband-to-be are phenomenal people, who have an amazing passion and zeal for loving people.
Her post Imperfect Wedding captures the essence of the callousness that can come in planning a wedding and sheds light on what a simple, imperfect wedding can contribute to a life of true love and commitment from that day forward.